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It’s Not About How Many Friends You Have – It’s IF You Share Good Juju!

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Karen Salmansohn is a best-selling author known for creating self-help for people who wouldn’t be caught dead reading self-help. The following is an article of hers that was posted on http://www.oprah.com

To hell with random acts of kindness for strangers! Now that I’ve got your attention, I want to share why it’s important to create more conscious acts of kindness for the friends you already know and love, at least as much as you may be encouraged to do for the stranger on the street.

There’s a huge trend these days to collect as many friends as possible on social networking sites such as Facebook, LinkedIn and MySpace. Sadly, with this cultural encouragement to amass people, you can miss the whole point.

Why do you want authentic, deep friendships? Friends touch your heart, challenge your mind, inspire you to pursue your passions, double the good times, halve the bad times and make your life a happier and more fulfilling place to be.

And that’s not just my opinion! Here are the researched facts from Tom Rath, a researcher at Gallup:

  • If you feel close to other people, you are four times more likely to feel good about yourself and life.
  • People who claim to have five or more true friends with whom they can discuss important problems are 60 percent more likely to say that they are “very happy.”
  • People with a best friend at work are seven times more likely to be engaged in their work! However, only 30 percent of employees report having a best friend at work!

“Friendships are among the most fundamental of human needs,” Rath says. “When we asked people if they would rather have a best friend at work or a 10 percent pay raise, having a friend clearly won.”

Unfortunately, if you’re too busy amassing a quantity of friends on social networking sites—or in live networking events—you might be creating a quantity of unfulfilling relationships, which won’t make your life happier at all!

If you’re feeling twitchy because you’re addicted to collecting people, you’re not alone in your yearning to be surrounded by a crowd. It’s a trend these days. We’re supposed to want more, more, more. It’s a trend Nobel Prize winner Daniel Kahneman calls pedaling on the “Hedonic Treadmill.”

Active pedalers on the Hedonic Treadmill are always busy reaching for distant, dangling carrots of what they don’t yet have, easily forgetting to appreciate their already gathered, perfectly fabulous carrots, lying in a discarded heap at their feet.

But in terms of friendship, if you’re too focused on collecting distant, dangling carrot people, you risk not enjoying the full love experience received from spending quality time with the quality folks you already know and love.
How can you increase the joy of friendship? I have three ideas:

1. It’s not just who you know, it’s how well you know who you know! The deeper your emotional connection, the higher the emotional rewards.

2. Gather as many relationships of shared virtue into your inner circle . Make list of your top five friends and write down how they’ve influenced you and vice versa. How are you all alike in the ways that are important? Relationships of shared virtue, according to Aristotle, are the ones that bring true happiness. Focus on these relationships.

3. Look through your contact book and find your top five treasured people . Remember what you love about each and write or call him or her to share your admiration directly. Do it now. Seize the day!

And you know what? Don’t just do it today. Do it tomorrow. It’s not enough just to seize every other day with your friends. Seize every single solitary day!

How do you increase the joy in your friendships? Are you too focused on how many friends you have, rather than the quality of your friendships? Tell us your story!

7 Tips For Making Yourself Happier in the Next Hour

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You can make yourself happier – and this doesn’t have to be a long-term ambition. You can start right now. In the next hour, check off as many of the following items as possible. Each of these accomplishments will lift your mood and create Good Juju, as will the mere fact that you’ve tackled and achieved some concrete goals.

1. Boost your energy: stand up and pace while you talk on the phone or, even better, take a brisk ten-minute walk outside. Research shows that when people move faster, their metabolism speeds up, and the activity and sunlight are good for your focus, your mood, and the retention of information. Plus, because of “emotional contagion,” if you act energetic, you’ll help the people around you feel energetic, too.

2. Reach out to friends: make a lunch date or send an email to a friend you haven’t seen in a while. Having warm, close bonds with other people is one of the keys to happiness, so take the time to stay in touch. Somewhat surprisingly, it turns out that socializing boosts the moods not only of extroverts, but also of introverts.

3. Rid yourself of a nagging task: answer a difficult email, purchase something you need, or call to make that dentist’s appointment. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a big rush of energy and cheer, and you’ll be surprised that you procrastinated for so long.

4. Create a calmer environment: clear some physical and mental space around your desk by sorting papers, pitching junk, stowing supplies, sending out quick responses, filing, or even just making your piles neater. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizeable dent. Try to get in the habit of using the “one minute rule”—i.e., never postpone any task that can be completed in less than one minute. An uncluttered environment will contribute to a more serene mood.

5. Lay the groundwork for some future fun: order a book you’ve been wanting to read (not something you think you should read) or plan a weekend excursion to a museum, hiking trail, sporting event, gardening store, movie theater—whatever sounds like fun. Studies show that having fun on a regular basis is a pillar of happiness, and anticipation is an important part of that pleasure. Try to involve friends or family, as well; people enjoy almost all activities more when they’re with other people than when they’re alone.

6. Do a good deed: make an email introduction of two people who could help each other, or set up a blind date, or shoot someone a piece of useful information or gratifying praise. Do good, feel good—this really works. Also, although we often believe that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act. When you act in a friendly way, you’ll strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.

7. Act happy: put a smile on your face right now, and keep smiling. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile has a positive influence on your emotions—turns out that just going through the motion of happiness brightens your mood. And if you’re smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable.

Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal. To the contrary. Studies show that happier people are more sociable, likeable, healthy, and productive—and they’re more inclined to help other people. So in working to boost your own happiness, you’re benefiting others as well.

Feel happier yet?

Compliments of the Happiness Project.

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Create Good Juju with a Vision Board

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With the beginning of the New Year, many of us are reevaluating our goals.  I’ve always thought about creating a Vision Board, but never have.  However, I think this week I will.

A vision board is a visual demonstration of your goals.  Cut out pictures that represent what you want to achieve in 2013.  Glue them to a piece of poster board and post it on your bulletin board. Let this serve as a daily reminder of your aspirations. Have others in your family create their own.  It’ll be a fun art project that everyone can get into, and it’ll get the Good Juju flowing!

Another suggestion is to create a digital version of your vision board. Simply make a graphic collage and set it as your background image on your computer.  That way, it will always be top of mind and a nice reminder of what you hope to achieve in the coming year.

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Example of a Vision Board

 

 

 

The Meaning Of Life: Have Good Juju

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Happy New Year! We thought we’d start off the year with a post about the Meaning of Life.  We realize this is hard to read, but if you look very closely, it says “To have Good Juju”  (OK, we are just telling you that).  However, do we believe it is true. When you are positive and kind to others, good things happen.  You will live a happy life with no regrets. This coming  year, strive to emit Good Juju to all you meet.

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Good Juju Tip #11 for a Happy Holiday Season

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Tis the season to give and receive.

Send a thank-you note. You know, it’s nice to get a little note thanking you for something you did. You don’t need to send someone a formal thank-you card (although that’s a nice touch), but just a little note (or email) saying thank you for a specific thing the person has done for you can go a long way. And it only takes a minute!

Tip compliments of Zen Habits.

Good Juju Tip #10 for a Happy Holiday Season

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The following tip comes to us from the Intent Blog.

Act On What You Know Will Make You Happy, Even It’s Hard

Putting your happiness first isn’t always easy. It often requires going against what everyone else is doing or thinking. But if you aren’t true to what feels right for you, even if it doesn’t fit the needs and sensibilities of other people — parents, partners and friends included – aren’t you just selling yourself out? You always know what the best action is to take for you, it’s just not always easy. Be committed to your happiness, even when it’s scary, and even when other people don’t like it.

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Good Juju Tip #9 for a Happy Holiday Season

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The holidays are all about showing others how special they are to us.  Today’s tip of the day comes from Zen Habits.

Give a free hug.  OK, only do this when appropriate … but if you have a loved one in your life, give them a hug! Often we can go too long without showing our affection and gratitude, even to those who are closest to us. Don’t neglect this important part of your relationship. By “free” hug, I mean don’t expect anything in return — just give it as a gift of gratitude. If you give a hug to a stranger, be prepared to run very fast afterward.